FAQ

Do you really mean “You are loved by God”?

No. The phrase is intentionally ambiguous. God is not a concept that is meaningful or useful to everyone. It’s also a concept that I have complicated feelings about.

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Wouldn’t it be more courageous and encouraging to say “I love you” instead of “You are loved.”

It would be different to say “I love you.” But I might not even know you. And how meaningful is that?

I care about authenticity. I care about saying what I mean and meaning what I say. I don’t want to say “I love you” if I am not sure if it’s true — though I do love many of my readers!

Meanwhile, I do not presume that you care in the least whether or not I love you. Many of us have little patience for such sloppy sentimentality among strangers.

But I am sure that somebody does love you.

Maybe you do need to be reminded that God loves you. Or your Mother. Or your Ancestors. Or your cat. Or maybe I was thinking specifically of you or people like you and you can lean into the possibility of my love.

But no matter what your life is like, I am sure that somebody does love you. And so I am here to hopefully remind you. To remind you that you are loved.

And I am here to say it over and over again like an incantation, because it seems like it’s something we just don’t get reminded of often enough in this world of ours.

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How do you write these?

Sometimes I am thinking about what a particular person I care about is going through. Sometimes I write for myself. Sometimes I am responding to themes or incidents I hear or see in the world. Sometimes I just listen for Spirit. Sometimes I just fall back to simplicity when nothing else comes.

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